Why SAHM's Need to Get Ready
Hey there! I'm the mom that sleeps until 9, stumbles around all morning and is finally "ready" for the day around noon... not ideal but it's my life! The problem is.. I'm really bad at getting up before my kids (cause I'm that mom that other moms despise because my kids sleep until 9 as well... oops) so I can get a jumpstart on ME before I have to serve them. Most days I throw on the first thing I see in my closet which is usually a basic shirt and jeans, throw my hair in a bun, and quickly put on some makeup. My husband works from home too so we've just gotten in a routine of always seeing each other so I rarely ever get the urge to "go all out" for him. He's typically the same, it's just easier sometimes to wear something comfy and call it good! But I recently decided it's a habit that needs breaking if I'm being honest.. and I'll tell you why!
Trust me I get it, if you're a stay at home mom, it's hard sometimes to get ready with nowhere to go and no one to see (except of course when you're gorgeous friend stops by unexpectedly and you're all... hi! Haven't showered in 2 days, what's up.) I've said it to myself hundreds of times "what's the point?" Plus mom life is just messy! (Like end of day trying to guess what the heck is on your shirt that can't be indetified through smell or taste.. hmm) Between cooking, cleaning, and your kids all over you and spitting up on you- you usually have to change outfits twice a day so why wear a cute one in the first place? It's frustrating! And don't even get me started on the comparison game. Us moms fall victim to comparing ourselves to other moms on social media who always seem to have it together, who always look dressed to impress and always have that perfectly messy hair look. And you think, whatever.. I'm not THAT kind of mom. And although I know there's a lot of fake out there but maybe they ARE the kind of mom that likes to be fully ready each day and they make sure they take the time to do so...
And what's wrong with that? Before kids, did you take the time on yourself to dress cute, do your hair, and do your makeup? Why does becoming a mom have to change that? I'm a big advocate in helping women to NOT lose themselves in motherhood because it's so easy to do. I lost myself for a few years and once I rediscovered ME- everything about my life and my way of mothering changed. I no longer saw myself just as "their mom" but instead, Holly who is also a mom to my two kids. There's lots of different ways you can lose yourself and find it again, but I do believe one of those ways is not getting ready anymore. Does it really have that much of an effect? Yes!!
It's not that you should feel the need to impress anyone or the need to even go anywhere. It's also not about you "needing makeup or cute clothes to be beautiful and happy because you do that all on your own! It's all about how your appearance on the outside affects how you feel on the inside. If you feel totally happy and confident in your comfy clothes and messy hair then girl you GO FOR IT! Of course I know there's the sick days, the lazy days, the period days, the 8 month pregnant days (okay I'll actually give you preggers an out for the next 10 months cause.. ya know) and the "I just don't give a shit" days and those are legit and I don't blame you for not wanting to get ready then! I've had plenty of those days myself and I'm perfectly content and happy being just the way I am after I rolled out of bed haha but.. most days aren't like that (thank goodness!)
However, most days if I don't take those few precious minutes to myself in the morning, my day is just a little off. If I don't feel confident in my appearance then it affects my attitude which affects my positivity which of course affects how my day goes and how I am as a mother and wife. Is it crazy that for me, I actually get way more done, feel much happier, and I'm kinder to my family when I feel good about how I look? In turn, my happiness radiates to my husband and he notices that I spent some time on myself and that brings him happiness to! Think about it, how can you try to fill others' cups when yours isn't full to begin with?
I don't want this post AT ALL make you feel bad or that you aren't doing enough. Oh mama, I KNOW you are doing enough and you ARE enough! I don't want you to stress about what to wear everyday or if you look okay, it's the exact opposite! I want you to wear what YOU like and do what you need to do to FEEL beautiful, not just look beautiful (which you always do!) I just want to challenge you to give yourself some love and attention before anyone else and see what a difference it makes! It's not being selfish, it's practicing SELF-LOVE and it's essential for a full and happy life! I think it's one of the most important things we can do for ourselves and others. You are the master of your own happiness so if you aren't taking the time to make sure that is fulfilled.. then what?
I promise if you can take just 20minutes at the beginning of your day to pamper yourself and start your day off with a positive and confident mindset, that you will see a major shift in your life! If it's not getting yourself ready, find what it is that does spark your soul! Whether it's a warm bath, meditation/prayer, reading, exercise, or having a warm quiet breakfast by yourself. Do something and you will see yourself in a more positive light, you will feel more full which means you can give more to your family, and you will start to feel like YOU again.
(Pssst! Watch my latest YouTube video showing how I get a full face of makeup for an everyday mom look in 6 minutes! Click here )